That's a really good way of putting it Susan! I just find that most of the time I remain courteous to women like that and not allow them into my lives because they generally want to pick you apart and criticize. Sometimes even that is difficult because some of them you have to accept in your life, especially when it comes to family members. The best way to handle women like that is usually to have a one-on-one direct talk with them, let them know where you stand and that you will not put up with less. But with some people, you will never be able to do anything right anyway so what's the point in trying to prove anything to them??