I agree with David Drummond, This does not sound complicated.
You dont have enough power. I do run XM using the 12v plug, BUT it is directly wired to the battery NOT a factory install. My auto mechanic discouraged me from using any of the 12v plugs from the factory, he said they are fixing burnt wires all the time, and that the factory does not use heavy enough gage to run all the new electronics.. I use the AC adapter plugged into an power inverter for the laptop, and the power inverter does not run off of a 12v plug but is wired directly to the battery. and a seperate 12v 3 plug hooked directly to the battery. The only thing i run the factory 12v plugs for is to charge the cell phone.
I agree with what has already been said, wire your power inverter and your 12v plugs directly to the battery, any auto mechanic will do it in an hour.
Hank
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